I have been asked quite a few times "How's the married life?" And every time I thought "What a bizarre question!" Then I realize people are being polite and cute. And then! I thought, I should discus this for a few minutes.
Married life is AWESOME! Heck, I have a husband! Many, many times I wondered if I'd ever be able to say such a thing. And honestly, I know God saw my heart and put me with the right person, at the right time.
Married life also does not feel much different than life before we were married. We still live our lives day to day and have good days and bad days. But, we do realize, respect and love that we are now binded by a promise that is forever.
I want to share a true testimony that Brad & I shared.
We were asked by a couple of people in our church to not live together prior to the wedding. We had been living together for about 4 or 5 months and did not want that to change. Change like that gives me anxiety. We loved living together and thought everything was good the way it was. But my Pastor put out a good point, like he very often does. He said something along the lines of, if you knew you could do something to better & bless your life years from now, wouldn't you? If you could move apart now, and stay that way until your wedding, to please God and bless your marriage, wouldn't you?
Wow. I was scared. I didn't want to leave my comfortable living to do this. But there was one thing I was even more sure of: I did not ever want to get divorced. I want this to be my only marriage, I want to make it work no matter what. So Brad & I talked, and we decided that living apart until our wedding day was the best thing to do for us and for our marriage, and most importantly, for God.
And now, I write to you a month (to the day!) into marriage. And I have no regrets. I am proud of the decision we made and the people who challenged us to make this decision. For I know that we will have gloomy days, but we will have sunny days too. I believe God will always be present in our marriage and help us get through anything. And with God by our side, what can't we do?
